American Speech-Language-Hearing Association

Communication Begins with a First Impression

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E very relationship - whether personal or business - starts with a first impression. The right body language and conversation takes just seconds to set the stage for a winning impression.

Body Language

Before words are said, your body says a lot. A full, firm handshake and good standing posture shows confidence. Steady, relaxed eye contact shows interest and says you are listening. Try to avoid staring too long, as to make others uncomfortable. A sincere smile also breaks the ice and expresses a relaxed confidence. Imagine how important this is for a job interview or a first date. Leaning slightly toward the speaker is inviting and shows that you are involved in the conversation. Nod your head to show understanding. "Research has found 80 percent of what you 'say' is in your body language," says Diane Paul-Brown, Ph.D., CCC-SLP, of the American Speech-Language-Hearing Association.

Verbal Language

Start a conversation with a simple question to get the words flowing. Asking questions gives the other person an opportunity to contribute his or her thoughts. This positions you as a good listener. Say something nice about someone. Imagine how important a positive, interested attitude is at a party or in a new job. Remember that a conversation involves more than one person. Be concise and do not monopolize the conversation. "Your audience will think more highly of your communication skills-and of you," when conversation is kept short, says Paul-Brown.

Key Factors to Making a Favorable First Impression

Your appearance

- good personal hygiene

- simple clothing

- clean, sharp, and ironed

- coordinated

- solid, neutral colors

- limited accessories

Your smile

- relaxed and sincere

- slightly open

- use all face muscles

Eye contact

- steady

- relaxed

- about 5 seconds

Your handshake

- dry

- firm

- maintain eye contact

What to Avoid Doing

- playing with your hair

- crossing your arms

- fidgeting, foot tapping

- touching your face

- using meaningless hand gestures


For free information about speech, language and hearing, call ASHA's Action Center at 1-800-638-TALK (8255) or visit ASHA's website at www.asha.org .








  • Communication disorders affect approximately 42 million Americans. Of these, 28 million have a hearing loss and 14 million have a speech or language disorder. 
  • Audiologists are hearing health care professionals who specialize in preventing, identifying and assessing hearing disorders as well as providing audiologic treatment including hearing aids and other assistive listening devices.
  • Speech-language pathologists are the professionals who identify, assess, and treat speech and language problems including swallowing disorders.
  • ASHA is the national, professional, scientific, and credentialing association for more than 120,000 audiologists, speech-language pathologists, and speech, language, and hearing scientists.

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