Dealing With Possible Mentoring Problems

In some mentoring relationships, things do not go exactly as planned or expected. Try to remedy problems as soon as possible.

Poor Chemistry

It is not realistic to expect every mentor and mentee to instantaneously bond and become very close. If you do not feel comfortable discussing some issues with your mentor, try to focus on what you can learn from that person and look for other informal mentors for other needs.

If you try and still feel you are getting nothing from the relationship, contact the mentoring coaches at step@asha.org.

Unrealistic Expectations for Mentors or Mentees

Occasionally, mentors and mentees expect too much from one another. Realize that the other person is busy or life may have gotten in the way. Try to be understanding and appreciative of what you get from the relationship. Mentees, you should not expect your mentor to "make your career" or give you all the answers. Mentors are one source of advice and encouragement; no one should rely on one person for everything.

Lack of Commitment

If your mentor or mentee seems unresponsive for a long period of time, send another e-mail assuming they are just busy. If you still don't get a response, then write or call again, asking if something is wrong. Contact the mentoring coaches at step@asha.org if you are unable to get any response. Although everyone is committed at the start of the program, unexpected events can occur that causes someone to withdraw from the program.